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Finding Me Again 5 Bad Words

2 Bad Words That Limit You

In my mind and my life, there have been two bad words that are very damaging and limiting to me and, in fact, to anyone.  They are not typically dirty words or slander words or particularly hurtful if you hear them.  The words happen to hold power to limit you if you allow them to do that.


My life has been full of “Just” and “Only”, and the power of those words haunt me and push me now to rise above them.

According to the Oxford Dictionary:



Based on or behaving according to what is morally right and fair.

We get that things are just and right. That is not the limited use here.



Simply; only; no more than

You are just… a girl, a mom, an immigrant, a student, a teacher, a homemaker. The list goes on. Telling someone they are just something is a limitation to their amazing self.



Alone of its or their kind; single or solitary.

We know this definition and use, and it makes sense. Turn and use it as an adverb and see how there can be power taken away from someone.


And no one or nothing more besides; solely.

No more than (implying that more was expected); merely

You are only…. renting an apartment, driving an older car, single, divorced, working from home, a senior citizen, a kid. The list goes on. Only is very limiting and can bring thoughts to things you are missing out on or the realization that people believe you to be less than you actually are in your life.

Power of Words

Budda is quoted often talking about the power of words. He believed,  “Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.” I truly believe this. What about you?

Will you think twice about using the words “Just” and “Only” as an adverb when you are talking to people without considering what it may mean?

Know Your Mountain!

I truly believe in the concept that you need to know your mountain. In fact, I need to feel those people around me and acknowledge how they contribute to me being me. I, in turn, work hard to be there for others.

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